Arguments Contributor(s): The School of Life (Author), de Botton, Alain (Editor) |
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ISBN: 1912891115 ISBN-13: 9781912891115 Publisher: School of Life
WE WILL NOT BE UNDERSOLD! Click here for our low price guarantee Binding Type: Hardcover Published: May 2020 Click for more in this series: The School of Life Love |
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BISAC Categories: - Family & Relationships | Anger (see Also Self-help - Self Management - Anger Management) - Family & Relationships | Marriage & Long Term Relationships - Psychology | Interpersonal Relations |
Dewey: 153.6 |
Series: The School of Life Love |
Physical Information: 0.8" H x 4.5" W x 6.2" L (0.45 lbs) 160 pages |
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Publisher Description: A practical and definitive guide to arguments in love, teaching us how to argue more effectively. An average couple will have between thirty and fifty significant arguments a year--and yet we're seldom taught very much about why they happen and how they could grow a little less intense. This is a guide to arguments in love: it teaches us why they might occur, what their symptoms are, how we could learn some wiser ways of communicating, and how we would ideally patch up after a fight. The book looks at twenty of the most common arguments--including ones about sex, money, in-laws, who is cold and who is over-emotional, and the state of the bathroom and the finances. We recognize our own antics but also pick up consoling and wise ideas on how to skirt certain conflicts going forward. The tragedy of every sorry argument is that it is constructed around a horrific mismatch between the message we so badly want to send (I need you to love me, know me, agree with me) and the manner in which we are able to deliver it (with impatient accusations, sulks, put-downs, sarcasm, exaggerated gesticulations, and forceful f*** yous). A bad argument is a failed endeavor to communicate; this is a definitive guide to how we might argue better. The priority is not so much to avoid points of contention as to learn to handle them in less counterproductively vindictive and more gently strategic ways. We need a lot help in order to acquire the complex art of converting our poisonous arguments into effective and compassionate dialogues. |
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